Me and my boyfriend are 6 years apart
From time to time, I think everyone in a relationship wonders what it might be like to take a break. You don't want to lose your partner, but for various reasons, you wish you could just hit the pause button, take a little time apart, but then get back together. But could something like that even work? Can a relationship recover from a break, or can time apart really make your relationship stronger than it was before? If this is something you're considering, but are afraid of what it will mean for your current romance, you have two options: Pull the trigger and see what happens, or listen to to the stories of other people who took that leap to see if ultimately taking a timeout was worth it.
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By Chris Seiter. This is a subject that I have wanted to tackle for a long time now. However, for whatever reason I have just never gotten around to it. As many of you are aware, Ex Boyfriend Recovery gets quite a few comments every single day and through those comments I get to meet you, the reader.
I get to hear about the latest relationship troubles you are going through and in some cases I get to hear your whole life story. For the record, I am not saying that to be facetious. I really do like hearing your life stories. When I first started this site every other comment I would receive seemed to be about long distance relationships or what to do if your ex got a new girlfriend.
So, when I wrote respective articles covering those topics it only made sense that another trend was bound to pop up and sure enough, in my second year running this site that trend came in the form of the grass is greener syndrome. Well, now I am in year three and I think I have just located the newest trend that you ladies want to hear about…. Well, I can only speak for myself but when I think of an age gap between a couple I think of something like this,.
So, I think it would be a lot more insightful and fun to talk about all kinds of age gaps between couples. In other words, I would like to talk about what it means for a couple who has any type of age gap or lack of age gap and the affect that the age gap has on the male.
Take the quiz. Yep, we just hit over 40, comments on this site which is just incredible to me. In essence, what I am saying is that I have personally dealt with over 60, women if you include the emails with different boyfriends, husbands and lovers. Many of which have had all kinds of age gaps. No, I suspect that you are more interested in how this age gap business affects your current situation with your ex.
Well, there tends to be two schools of thought when it comes to age gaps and relationships…. In this section I am going to be discussing the two major thought processes that most people tend to have when it comes to an age gap between a couple. After all, I have seen a lot in my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery so what the heck is the truth? People who believe this theory believe that the more time that separates a couple the more they are doomed to end.
At 62 I probably have kids as old as you, ex wives if I am dating you, health problems and my looks have faded a bit I am still one handsome devil! Realistically, if we were dating and had this big of an age gap then what is it that we are getting out of the relationship?
At 22 you are probably looking for a good time but you probably also want something that can potentially go somewhere. You are looking for a good time… I am looking for a good time… This does some more likely. Of course, there are always two sides to every coin so lets take a look at the other side of this coin. Now, logically when you look at a statement like that and you probably shake your head and think to yourself,. There are plenty of examples of couples with large age gaps that not only ended up together but stayed together.
The truth is that the breakup devil is capable of visiting everyone no matter what the age gap. So, that tells me that what it all really boils down to is the individuals themselves in relationships that make them work.
Oh, and when couples with a large age gap between them do end up staying together they are rarely happy since they are at completely different points in their lives. In other words, if you are twenty and your ex boyfriend is forty then that means that the two of you are separated by a large age gap and are more likely to break up or be unhappy.
So, in an effort to make things a bit easier for you to process I have decided to structure the age gaps into four different categories,. I have to say that most of the relationships I have encountered throughout my time here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery fall into this category.
In other words, if you are 23 and your boyfriend is 25 then your age gap would fall into this category. Many of the younger readers of this article probably saw the five year age gap and started freaking out. I think really what made me realize there was a major maturity difference was when she had some candy and just like a little kid started running around her house like this….
At the beginning of the date I was looking forward to having a good time with this girl and potentially having a relationship with her until the minute I saw her acting like a child because of candy. It was such an immature thing to do. My point is simple, when you are younger then these age differences matter more. It is for this reason that different rules apply to my younger readers. Well, if you are in high school then you need to be around one year apart to be on the same maturity level I have found.
No, this is real life where age differences in high school do actually affect the maturity of a person. At 25 you are probably looking for something more serious marriage and at 30 your boyfriend is probably at the same point of his life.
It goes without saying that since most of the relationships I see have a pretty close age gap that I deal with a lot of breakups in this area. So, in all of my infinite wisdom and experience have I found any way that this age gap affects you and your ex. Now, the one modification I would like to make with that statement is when it comes to our younger viewers.
Well, the reason that, that was such a bizarre experience for me was the fact that I felt way more mature than that girl. Sure, only three years separated us but after seeing her run around all crazy like it became clear to me that we were on different planets when it came to maturity. This girls running around literally felt like a little kid who had too much chocolate and is annoying you by running around because they got too excited.
This is without a doubt my favorite age gap to talk about because couples who have this age gap are often at an amazing time in their lives. If I had a daughter who was 15 and she brought home a 25 year old guy I would definitely be all over this guys case.
Generally speaking couples with this age difference fall in their mid-twenties to mid-thirties and it is at this age when both men and women are looking for a life partner which makes things really interesting when you are looking at age gaps and ex boyfriends.
Generally speaking couples this far apart still have a lot in common and as we established above usually tend to be a bit older and mature. It is for this reason that couples in the medium age gap range are looking for more serious commitments like marriage.
Now, most men are going to look at settling down with someone but there are always going to be those special cases of men that get freaked out by a deep commitment like marriage.
You have never been married before and at 32 you are receiving a lot of pressure to settle down from friends and family. Your boyfriend, on the other hand, is still in party mode a little bit. While deep down he does recognize that with your age you will be looking for a deep commitment he is just coasting through life enjoying what little moments he can.
You would think that at 32 a man would be looking for something. In fact, when you really think about it he is still in party mode. Now, this is completely fine if you are 25 looking to just have some fun and he is 32 looking to just have some fun. Of course, what is the one constant in this life? Now, here is the problem with that.
Now, if we turn our attention back to the example in which you are 25 then that means you would be 45 by the time you would be married to your boyfriend assuming he has the same type of mindset as a Clooney.
Couples with these big age gaps tend to be of a rarer breed. If you have a big age gap then the odds are starting to stack against you. Call me old school but I believe a successful relationship is defined as one that goes somewhere likely marriage. Now, at 40 you have been through your fair share in life. You may have a few kids, a few exes and have been hardened from these experiences.
This might be a problem since your boyfriend is still very young and probably wants a family. However, the fact that you are 45 means that having children is going to be quite difficult.
In fact, the odds are really against you there. You are going to be greeted with 10 results all about young women who marry older men. The thought here is that these young women have married the older men just to get their money. This is essentially what society thinks about women who date older man. They keep telling me that he is not serious and that he is just using me. What should I do? I recently wrote an article about friends and family who disagree with you trying to get back with your ex where I talk about this effect in much greater detail.
Think of it like this, when people look at a normal couple they usually envision two people who are one to five years apart and generally most couples do fall between this age gap. So, that is what society is used to. Of course, when society, friends or family are confronted with an age gap that exceeds the norm there is a negative connotation that surrounds it. This age gap is probably the rarest ones to see but I have seen it before.
In fact, I actually remember the last time I saw it. How this guy got this girl is beyond me but what mattered was the fact that the girl seemed to be genuinely upset about the breakup and was willing to do anything to get him back. This man and this woman are at completely different points of their lives and therein lies the problem,. I am all about helping women not only get back with their exes but keep their exes when they get them back.
If you visit the sales page for my E-Book , you will notice that I cite multiple examples where I have not only helped women get back with their ex boyfriends but they have actually taken the next step and got married.
I am not saying it is impossible because it is definitely not impossible but it is very unlikely. Lets take our example above of the 28 year old girl who wants her ex boyfriend back who happens to be Well, I have a hard time believing that at 65 this guy is going to want to get married. So, my major problem with the large age gap really revolves around the fact that a long lasting commitment like marriage is probably not going to happen.
Your email address will not be published. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. My partner of 7 years ended our relationship. No kids either side. We had a great relationship — we Laughed every day, had a meeting of minds, both have an entrepreneurial spirit and everyone could see how well we got on together.
The begged question is extreme: Are you going to be totally apart or never leave each other? It feels like a Bachelor moment. What are couples deciding? We talked to four about how it went down….
I recently had a realization: all of my good friends are in relationships with men that are five to seven years older than they are. All of them. All of my good friends are either married, or have been with their partners for at least three years—many of them seven years. They live together. They have pets together.
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By Chris Seiter. This is a subject that I have wanted to tackle for a long time now. However, for whatever reason I have just never gotten around to it. As many of you are aware, Ex Boyfriend Recovery gets quite a few comments every single day and through those comments I get to meet you, the reader. I get to hear about the latest relationship troubles you are going through and in some cases I get to hear your whole life story. For the record, I am not saying that to be facetious. I really do like hearing your life stories. When I first started this site every other comment I would receive seemed to be about long distance relationships or what to do if your ex got a new girlfriend. So, when I wrote respective articles covering those topics it only made sense that another trend was bound to pop up and sure enough, in my second year running this site that trend came in the form of the grass is greener syndrome.
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People are constantly searching for the keys to a successful relationship. Advice varies, but these facts remain the same. Plus, celebrity couples with big age gaps who are still going strong. The relationship will start off great.
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Samantha Espinoza , Reporter October 21, Age differences do matter in a relationship, especially in high school. On the other hand, a year-old student dating someone who is 21 is harshly criticized because of one person being over the age of The wider the age gap, the more unacceptable the relationship is considered.
You cannot always help who you fall in love with , and sometimes, the person may be quite older — or younger — than yourself. Naysayers may tell you it won't work out; however, according to couples who are in such partnerships, there are ways to make it work. Read more: 6 ways to make a relationship work if you're not the same age as your partner. Sussman , LCSW, told us. Sussman, however, also said there is such a thing as too much of an age difference.
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Marni Feuerman is a psychotherapist in private practice who has been helping couples with marital issues for more than 27 years. But the latest trends indicate that men and women are now choosing to embark on relationships with partners that are 15 to 25 years older or younger. Love may be blind, but apparently, it no longer has an expiration date. Beyond the obvious pitfalls of marrying someone with a large difference in age cultural references often go in vain, for example , age gaps have advantages, too, and many factors impact whether the union will last. Husbands and wives usually have more in common and share similar belief systems when their age difference is just several years. But whenever a significant age gap exists, couples are more likely to have different life goals and perspectives, which may prove incompatible in the long term although it's not a given.
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People say love is blind, but research says your age gap can determine the longevity of your relationship. Nonetheless, in the concept of dating someone significantly older, or younger, than you still raises a few eyebrows. Case in point; the unwarranted furore surrounding Emmanuel Macron, 39, — the newly-elected President of France — and his wife Brigitte Trogneux, With an age gap of 25 years, Macron, recently spoke out about the international obsession with the age difference between himself and his partner.
We are seeing large age gaps in the dating pool, and not just the typical old-man-younger-woman narrative. For example, a AARP study reported that 34 percent of women over 39 years old were dating younger men. Add in the popularization of divorce over the last 50 years and the introduction of dating apps, and matters of love, sex and how we connect are utterly transformed.