How to know if your husband is cheating while deployed
Military marriage is hard. Sometimes spouses at home cheat, and sometimes service members cheat on deployment. While it's easy to dismiss cheating as a thing only terrible people do, the underlying causes of infidelity, in many circumstances, are much more complex and heartbreaking than they appear. These 11 stories from service members who cheated on deployment show just how difficult military marriage can be, and why it sometimes fails.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: 10 signs a guy is cheating on you! Signs of infidelity
is he cheating on deployment?
A wife writes in because she is worried her husband cheated while deployed. A Community Member asks:. My husband was deployed for a year and was super sketchy while deployed. When I confronted him, he said they were friends, and it was nothing. I threatened to take the kids and leave, and he apologized told me he made a drunken mistake. I forgave him. When he got back from deployment, things were different. We had our baby, and things drastically changed. He became distant, always on his phone.
I started getting a gut feeling something was wrong, so I checked our phone bill and noticed he had been receiving and making phone calls at weird times… on his way to work, on his lunch break, and before coming home.
Not just a few minute phone calls but like mins each time for the past 3 months. I confronted him, and he told me it was none of my business, and that he had friends.
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this wife in need, read the comments of the post embedded below. Fan QuestionI have a feeling my husband cheated while deployed: Thoughts? Sorry for the long post. Some of the community responded to this wife who feels her husband may have cheated when he was deployed. You can read some of these responses below. The horrors they come across.
People change over time and men that are deployed usually come home a changed person. The main concern is that your children are taking care of. He probably needs time to readjust to all of the above and sometimes that is extremely difficult, for some not at all. That is what he is expecting. When there is no trust then there is no point. There is no coming back fully from this. Kids are young. Separate asap. Focus on yourself and children and get out of that unhealthy relationship. The responses were interesting.
They brought out a good point, although I am not sure it excuses cheating if, in fact, he did cheat. It was mentioned that because he was deployed he could be really needing to talk to someone who understands what he has been through.
That maybe, he is not cheating but reaching out for help. This may be very true and getting help is important, but when you are married it is safer to avoid any emotional relationship with someone of the opposite sex. As a married couple, that emotional support should come from the other person in the marriage. So taking all this in mind it might be best to seek out therapy for both of you together and separately. If he is unwilling to work on your marriage together then I think you have your answer.
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We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. If you feel a message or content violates these standards and would like to request its removal please submit the following information and our moderating team will respond shortly. I think if he was going to cheat, a wedding ring wouldn't stop him. I mean, the prostitutes don't care if he's married. Did he leave his ring at home?
Are soldiers faithful during deployments?
Each week, I meet with couples who are trying to save their marriage. Some of them have a better chance of surviving than others. She eventually discovered he was cheating, but that was after she had ruined her relationships with her close friends and some family members in the process. The efforts she made to sneak and spy on her husband put a lot of pressure on everyone around her. You are a nervous wreck with anxiety and you lose yourself in the process. While you are spying on your mate, you are being robbed of who you are. Women find inventive ways to discover if their man is cheating. Keeping an eye on a cheater is exhausting, demeaning and it can destroy you emotionally and physically. If you want to know if his cheating has made you lose your mind, take a look at the 10 examples below.
Why I Cheated When I Deployed
We were talking about that the other day with my dh dear husband after reading that one of the soldiers that died at Fort Hood came back pregnant from her deployment. And then somebody mentioned her dh's 3 year deployment in another debate and how sex deprived he's going to be. And then, there's my sil who had to go to couple counseling after her then fiance came back from Iraq because infidelity was suspected. So do you think that the married men and women going on deployments for months, and sometimes years, at a time remain faithful to their spouses? It's good to see people willing to acknowledge that the problem exist.
.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: How Military Spouses Keep Intimacy Alive During Deployment